Jim is and has been trying to come to terms with the changes in his life, appearance, personality. My boss brought me this quote from the funeral she attended of a young friend who died tragically last week. It's from the Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams, a wonderful children's story that brought me to tears and wish only that Jim could bring the meaning of this small part of the story to his heart.
"Real isn't how you are made," said the skin horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become real. It doesn't happen all at once. You become. It takes a long time. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real, you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.